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When your kids are cooking, do you let them take the lead (assuming they are old enough), or do you closely monitor their every action?
I remember the shock and sadness I felt when I read Jeannette Wall’s account in her memoir, The Glass Castle, of getting badly burned at age three while making a hot dog for her lunch. While few, if any, of us would let our children tend to a boiling pot on their own at such a young age, many of us do wonder what age is safe for our children to learn to handle a sharp knife or fry their own eggs. There is no definitive answer, but our fear of cuts and burns or, perhaps even more common, our reluctance to have more messes to clean up, or meals off schedule, often hold many of us back from ever getting our kids started in the kitchen. But if we don’t get over our hesitation, our kids may turn out like our friend Larry: who literally cannot boil an egg or even make a peanut butter and jelly sandwich, although he is in his 60’s.
Last week I flew to California to help my sister recuperate from surgery. One night my nephews and I decided to make dinner for the whole family. I was thrilled to see that my 15-year-old nephew, Jared, has become a confident cook since I first taught him how to make enchiladas when he was about 12 (a warm memory that he and I share).
My 12-year-old nephew, Eli, on the other hand, has mostly avoided the kitchen, perhaps intimidated by his older brother’s growing confidence. In spite of (or maybe because of) his reluctance, I insisted Eli take the lead. I showed him how to safely wield a knife to cut a head of broccoli into florets. Then I let him loose (to his brother’s horror), cheering him on as he chopped. I could sense his growing confidence as he smashed the garlic to add to the marinade for the halibut. By the time we served dinner, Jared and Eli had chopped, juiced, minced, and basted. There was no disguising their pride as the family devoured the meal they had prepared mostly on their own.
In teaching kids to cook, I have learned that it is so important to let go of our own fears and standards, and to let them learn through doing, and to try to avoid micromanaging them. Of course, the first lesson is always safety, especially around knives and ovens. But after showing them how to safely peel a carrot or slice a potato, or remove a pan from a hot oven, I have found that I need to step back and hold my tongue (even if I may be screaming inside!).
Naturally, things won’t be done exactly as we would do them; cucumber slices may be uneven, clumps will remain in the soup, and frosting won’t evenly cover every bit of cake. But if we continually correct our children, it probably sounds to them a lot like criticism, and their interest in cooking may quickly wane. I have found that the key to cooking with kids is to try to keep things positive, make almost all of my words encouraging, and to give them more responsibility than I may at first feel comfortable with. So far, no one has lost a digit on my watch.
As they grow, let’s pledge to try to let the kids take the lead in the kitchen more often. After all, they aren’t just making a meal. They are learning a skill that will serve them, and their families. Setting an adventurous and positive tone will affect how they feel about spending time in the kitchen for many years to come.
Chicken Tikka
Prep (15 minutes) + Cook (15 minutes) + Marinate
6 servings
Our dear friend and devoted Scramble subscriber Karen Murray of Southold, New York, shared this delicious recipe with me. The yogurt marinade makes the chicken very moist and flavorful. To make the Indian feast complete, serve it with basmati rice and Curried Carrots with Dill.
1 1/4 cups plain reduced fat Greek or traditional yogurt (use soy yogurt for dairy free alternative)
1 tsp. minced garlic (about 2 cloves)
1 chunk (1-inch) ginger root, peeled, and minced (use 1 – 2 Tbsp., to taste)
1 tsp. ground cumin
2 tsp. curry powder
¼ tsp. salt
1 lime, juice only, about 2 Tbsp.
1 1/3 Tbsp. peanut or vegetable oil
1 1/2 – 2 lbs. boneless, skinless chicken breasts, cut in half crosswise
1 Tbsp. butter 1/2 cup mango chutney, for serving (optional)
- In a food processor, blender, or by hand, mix together the yogurt, garlic, ginger, cumin, curry powder, salt, lime juice and 1 Tbsp. oil until it is smooth. Reserve 1/2 cup of that yogurt mixture in a small bowl and refrigerate it to serve with the cooked chicken later
- Place the remaining yogurt mixture in a shallow container. Cut thin slits in the chicken breasts; add them to the yogurt mixture, and turn to coat them well. Cover and marinate them, refrigerated, for at least 4 hours and up to 24 hours.
- (Start the rice and carrots, if you are making them.) When you are ready to cook it, remove the chicken from the marinade, scraping the excess marinade from the chicken and discarding it.
- Place a large nonstick skillet over medium to medium-low heat and add the butter and remaining 1 tsp. oil. When the butter has melted, add the chicken breasts in a single layer. Sauté them, flipping once or twice, until the chicken starts to brown on its surface and is no longer pink in the center, 10 – 12 minutes. (If the outside is cooking much faster than the inside, reduce the heat slightly and partially cover the pan.)
- When the chicken is cooked through, remove it from the pan to a cutting board and slice it crosswise into strips. Serve it immediately with the reserved marinade and the chutney (optional) or refrigerate it for up to 3 days.
Scramble Flavor Booster: Double the cumin and use 1 Tbsp. curry powder.
Tip: Ginger root freezes well, but before freezing, it is best to break the ginger into smaller pieces (without peeling it). Wrap the individual pieces tightly, and keep them in the freezer for up to six months. Grate or chop as needed — no need to thaw first.
Side Dish suggestion: Cook 1 1/2 cups of basmati rice according to the package directions. To make authentic Indian-style basmati rice, cook the rice using chicken or vegetable broth instead of water, and add a stick of cinnamon, 6 whole cloves and 2 cloves of peeled garlic to the liquid with the rice. Remove the cinnamon, cloves and garlic before serving.
Side Dish suggestion: To make Curried Carrots with Dill, heat 2 tsp. olive oil in a small saucepan over medium heat. Add 4 – 6 large carrots, sliced, 1/2 tsp. curry powder, 1/2 tsp. dried or fresh dill, to taste, and a pinch of salt. Sauté it for 2 minutes, stirring occasionally. Cover the pan, reduce the heat, and steam the carrots for about 8 minutes until just tender when pierced with a fork.
Nutritional Information per serving (% based upon daily values): Calories 280, Total Fat 9g, 14%, Saturated Fat 3g, 16%, Cholesterol 125mg, 42%, Sodium 222mg, 9%, Total Carbohydrate 3g, 1% Dietary Fiber 0g, 0% Sugar 2g, Protein 45g
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