Thursday, October 25th, 2007...5:27 pm
Lie to Your Children—It’s Good for Them
Okay, this is my last post on this topic for awhile….It is amazing how two women have come to generate such a discussion and debate. I am thrilled that people are spending energy on considering the topics of feeding our children well. What’s Cooking Weekly, our healthy menu planning service, might just be the antidote - Honest to goodness Healthy and Seasonal Recipes, made and enjoyed by the Whole Family.
(As a side note… both of the books in question DO contain a lot of information about the nutrition content of said hidden produce. For me, this information simply confirms why eating these veggies (in their true and intended fashion) is valuable for me and the growing bodies of my children.)
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The terribly wrong message sent by Jessica Seinfeld and Missy Chase Lapine.
Updated Wednesday, Oct. 24, 2007, at 4:35 PM ET
While most literary sleuths are busy trying to discern whether and how Jessica (Mrs. Jerry) Seinfeld plagiarized recipes from a similar cookbook by Missy Chase Lapine, I say: a plague on both their houses. Both propose a culinary scheme that is, basically, totally stupid, to say nothing of dishonest. Seinfeld’s Deceptively Delicious and Lapine’s The Sneaky Chef advocate tricking kids into eating their fruits and, mostly, their veggies by pureeing them and oozing them into acknowledged goodies. Think mushes of cauliflower, squash, spinach, and avocado leaked into brownies, chocolate pudding, lasagna, macaroni and cheese, and grilled cheese sandwiches. Even hot cocoa, to which Seinfeld wants you to add mashed sweet potatoes; Lapine advises cherry juice.The twin major flaws in this faulty reasoning, are that, first, children get the wrong message that sweets and starches are good for them. After all, if you tell your offspring to stop eating brownies, he might not get enough iron via spinach. With the dangerous rise of childhood obesity and diabetes, do we really want to encourage the eating of sugars and starches? And, ultimately, and more seriously perhaps, lying to children via trickery—even “for their own good”—can feed a lifetime of distrust, as it should. I wonder how these undercover mothers keep their secrets. Are children locked out of the kitchens at cooking time, lest they see Mommy slipping pureed zucchini into their beloved mac ‘n’ cheese?A second problem raised by this hide-the-veggies duo is the invisibility of vegetables in their own recognizable forms. As a result, children are not afforded the opportunity to get used to the idea of trying and learning about them. Nor will they consider them necessary for good health. I’ll admit that getting a kid to down peas, string beans, or broccoli that he or she hates can be a discouraging chore. In this I speak from experience as the mother of a son who, until about the age of 14, hated all vegetables, except potatoes, corn, and raw carrot sticks and who once declared that the only edible green food was green noodles. Deciding not to turn every meal into a contest, I began only offering him small portions of those he liked, along with peeled, sliced pears, apples, peaches, and other seasonal fruits that he substituted for veggies.
Another great favorite with him—as with most children I know—was authentic (no funny business) olive-oil-based Italian tomato sauce, either with or without meat. Simmered with onion, finely diced carrot, and garlic that disappeared into an amalgam in the cooking, combined with a generous tossing of minced Italian parsley added in the last few seconds, that sauce gave him considerable vegetable credits. And I did not always serve this over starchy pasta, but ladled it over meatballs, chicken, fish, or finally, as it is often served in southern Italy, over broccoli, the first green vegetable I remember him eating—and liking—until one magical day he suddenly seemed to like almost all.
Therein lies a solution no more demanding than what is required in either of these stealth cookbooks—namely, coming up with recipes that don’t force vegetables to masquerade as treats, presenting them in forms that appeal to young palates. Instead of compromising lasagna, or tuna fish, or mashed potatoes with strongly flavored cauliflower, why not Japanese tempura or Italian fritto misto versions of cauliflower florets and other cut-up vegetables? Kids seem to love anything fried and crisp; fortunately, careful, quick frying at the right temperature in light vegetable oil minimizes the health dangers of that cooking method. (A thought: Given the overpowering flavor and aroma of cauliflower, any kid who can’t tell it lurks in macaroni and cheese or mashed potatoes may have a sensory development problem worth looking into.)
Both of these books also suggest what seems to be unnecessary trickery, most notably with sweet potatoes. Never have I fed a child who didn’t love them, whether baked and dabbed with butter and salt, or lightly candied with an orange juice-honey glaze, or, since we are talking sweet, under a mantel of melting marshmallows as an annual Thanksgiving treat. Why have them muck up grilled cheese sandwiches, as both authors recommend, or, even worse, add a yuck factor to hot cocoa?
In the end, I suppose one has to ask an even more basic question: Do vegetables treated as proscribed and in the amounts indicated by Seinfeld-the-Deceptive and Lapine-the-Sneak really add enough nutrients to a child’s diet to make the plotting and pureeing worthwhile? How valuable can one half-cup of spinach puree and one half-cup of carrot puree be when they are first cooked, then are again subjected to the heat of baking, finally to be divided among 12 brownies? And can there be any meaningful nutrition from a quarter-cup each of carrot and sweet potato puree divided amongst 10 portions of soup?
To answer this, I sought the advice of Marion Nestle, a professor of nutrition at New York University and the author of What To Eat. “Philosophically and practically, this is not really an effective approach,” she said. “It will not develop an appreciation of the flavors, textures, and interests of various vegetables, which is what you should try to do by introducing them over and over again until they catch on.”
As to the nutritional worth of such cooked and recooked vegetables, in miniscule amounts, Dr. Nestle first chuckled wildly and then answered, “All you can do is laugh.”
Mimi Sheraton, a former New York Times food critic, is the author of Eating My Words: An Appetite for Life, among other books.
Article URL: http://www.slate.com/id/2176564/



4 Comments
October 25th, 2007 at 9:07 pm
i found myself nodding in agreement through the pretty much the whole article. i think this woman knows what she’s talking about. i applaud her for writing this.
now i need to go read about the alleged recipe theft. this is getting good.
October 27th, 2007 at 7:45 am
I think Ms. Sheraton needs to get over herself.
“I’ll admit that getting a kid to down peas, string beans, or broccoli that he or she hates can be a discouraging chore. ”
Getting a kid to put hated food into his or her body?
Food and taste are very personal matters, in my book, directly and intimately connected to information about self, self awareness, self image, understanding one’s own body’s cues and being able to inerpret and trust them…I think it far, far, far more damaging to give the message “I know your taste buds, your body’s messages, your inner voice better than you do.”
Talk about setting a kid up for life long problems and distrust. If kids have gotten to the point of being picky, either through nature or nuture, I think the best policy any parent can have is to back the heck off and back off far and fast.
I haven’t read Mrs. Seinfeld’s book ,but Sneaky Chef has plenty of recipes that aren’t treats; but I guess that’s how to spin an article to get it published.
The article talks about not hiding veggies in foods that children are accustomed to, but then suggests frying food because fried food is more palatable to children. Frying minimizes the health dangers, she says. Well, excuse me, Ms. Lapine’s recipe for Crispy No-Fry Fries is doing the same thing, yes?
And finely dicing carrots to put into sauce so her son would get more vegetables? Well, honestly, this is a pretty gray line if you ask me if we’re talking about honesty and building life long healthy eating habits. How is the carrot taste and texture coming through, there? Maybe my tastebuds have just been deadened by too many cups of hot coffee, but carrots are pretty delicately flaovered to begin with, so dicing them finely and adding to cooked sauce…what am I missing here? Oh…she’s being honest about the carrots being there?
I’d say that honestly about a carrot is serving it up on a plate raw. That’s a carrot. Anything else you do to the carrot is ameliorating the taste to suit a palate. For me, it’s one continuum to dicing it finely and adding it to a hot tomato sauce, and the next step is pureeing it and “hiding” it in a pancake.
And pardon me, but hot chocolate with cherry juice sounds devine. No one said anything about serving it to kids as their dinner entree, did they?
AND anyone who hasn’t been adding wheat germ to meatloaf and meatballs is - in my book - not living. The nutty flavor the wheat germ ADDS (since you just can’t disguise wheat germ) is a bonus. And my kids don’t know from wheat germ. I could be telling them it’s gumballs or rabbit droppings. So are we takling lies of omission if I’m not providing an ingedient list alongside their dinner plate?
Oh! And making Jello with pomegranate juice? We don’t eat Jello except as a treat once a year or so, but I think the idea is smashing.
Ms. Lapine also has great thoughts on how to “fix” your white flour for white flour recipes so that you don’t have to use as much white flour. Now, maybe eating gluten at all is a moral failing, but - as I learned with advocating for breastfeeding - sometimes, you have to start by meeting people halfway. For some, the dire warning of life long distrust and poor eating habits may come true - for others, it may be the first step on the road to casting down the shackles of wheat based products all together.
All this to say, I think that this book has it’s place. There are some people who may never turn completely from the dark side of Amuhrican Cookin’. But this book may get them to buy a head of kale now and again.
October 28th, 2007 at 3:45 am
[...] Michelle Stern placed an interesting blog post on Lie to Your Childrenâ??Itâ??s Good for Them.Here’s a brief overview:With the dangerous rise of childhood obesity and diabetes, do we really want to encourage the eating of sugars and starches? And, ultimately, and more seriously perhaps, lying to children via trickery—even “for their own good”—can feed … [...]
May 19th, 2008 at 5:52 pm
Good grief. Most kids don’t like to eat vegetables. Most eventually grow out of it. So some parents puree vegetables and add them to dishes. Others deep fry them like the authour of this piece does. What’s the big deal?
This article is unnecessarily judgemental and vitriolic. I mean, adding vegetables to dishes is ‘trickery’ possibly leading to a ‘lifetime of distrust’. Exaggeration much? Are our kids going to be in therapy years from now going “my mother put cauliflower puree in my mac and cheese… I don’t know how I’ll ever forgive her.”
Oh my god. How totally nonsensical. Different mothers find different ways of coping AND IT’S OKAY. The kids will survive, mental health intact. Mothers are not in a contest with each other. There is no need to put down another woman’s methods and proclaim yours is better. As a woman, reading articles like this is just embarassing.
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